It was on a Christmas eve and for the first time, I had gone to a girl’s house with a proposal. I don’t remember, what initiated this stuff a bit early. May be , aspiration for higher studies might be the villain/hero :) If yes, comments about higher studies from a foreign county might be a catalyst!
Dad had informed in the morning that we should go to a girl’s house with a proposal. I nodded yes. All my plans for Christmas had already dropped because of some or other reasons.. Imagined how will it be… only time I had ever gone for a proposal was with my dad for one of my uncle when I was kid. That memory was vague and the uncle too was not there
. I imagined girl will come with a cup of coffee, and will serve to all ,then mummy will say something . Mummy ! Mummy is sick ,she can’t even walk .”Dad… Is Mom coming with us ? ” I asked . ‘No, Is she required ?” . I always used to believe that some ladies from a family should accompany the group. One of my buddy too said the same thing , when his brother went with a proposal. All of his four sisters accompanied him.
“Daddy , shall I call Manju Chechi then ? ” “You check with her then.” “Hmm .”I nodded
I went to meet Mandu Chechi , Chechi was doing something . I asked her ‘Have you got any plans today, may be after noon ’. “Nothing much , but house hold works ” .Oh, that you can postpone it . “Yea , but why ?” . “Nothing Chechi ,I will just ask Mom and will call you later . “.I stared back to my house, she called me back . “Tell me why ?”.I told the same thing “Nothing Chechi, Mom will call you”. “yea , that I know . I am feeling something fishy .” she told “Manoj, tell me and go “. I told her with an embarsed smile , “Mom cannot travel and we need to go for with a proposal” .She smiled or laughed. I am not sure, I Ieft the house faster than my neurons could sense…eh!
Mandu Chechi is one of the simple, down to earth , and open personality who comes to my mind if some asks to list out .she might had a word with My mother. When I reached back home, dad told like we should start by 2:30. “Ok ” ? said I without giving him face. He asked me to wash the car then. I do remember him using car +/- 20 years , but I don’t remember washing . It may not the first time for me but quite sure it was only one in the past 4-5 years.
When I was almost finished with that , he asked me to get ready. When came back after bath, I saw my jeans was Ironed and a new white shirt was kept nearby. After school I haven’t dressed up in white . But I liked it . Then when dad came out and asked , you wore it ? it was something between question , comment and exclamation . Then I understood he had kept shirt over there by mistake. I told him like I got some other dress. “Hmm” he went in search of another shirt I guess.
We together went to pick up Mandu Chechi and by that time her husband Mathew Chettan too was ready . When I started to drive,he casually asked , “Do I need to drive ?” . I stopped and got out of the car. I just went to other side frond seat and opened the door and exclaimed to dad “Oh you were sitting here ” . It had given few more moments for them to laugh .Mathew chettan took the control.
On the way , I had briefed to Mandu Chechi about the girl. I went to her profile and read out all the details with my comments. I showed her photo to all oeveryone. I was not listening to their conversation. I heard something Mathew chettan saying about researches on diesel engines. Rest part I can’t recollect .
Both dad and Mathew Cheetan had some idea about the location for the girls house. I too knew the place , It had brought me some nostalgic feelings. Dad just told that is the house. “Oh I had came here !.” Chettan exclaimed. “I had came here for the purpose of introducing new branch, inaugurated. He (girls father )had some bad time with some banks , so it was not a good time for me on previous visit “. “Oh , Man ” I thought .
I was thinking what to say her. I had no clue what people say ! I just had asked Mandu Chechi , she just told me . Mathew chettan was the expert, and had proposed lot of girls , Check with him .. He looked back with an embarrassing smile. I thought of being Santosh pandit for a while
. I thought of taking her out from the house to show the road .. Do you know , this the road I had lost a bet, just between cup and lips . Once I tried to break 100 km/hr on a 180 cc bike on this road but failed . No , she may not be interested . or maybe I should skip the boring Ice breaking part for her and come to point directly .I thought of saying like ‘I don’t have much to say , my dream is to settle down in my native , my locality. or else I would like to stay with parents. If that is an issue please let me know. You got to ask something?’ . then I thought of winding up and stepping back to the room
We entered the house , Girls father took us to drawing room. A bit later her mother too came to that room. Then there was a silence for a min. Then dad asked something I guess. Her Mother was staring at me . Three times are looked at her, I guess she was staring at me without a blinking eyes. I felt a bit more uncomfortable and looked her father. He seems to be cool. There a few conversation about a couple of topics . When something related to banking came in, Mathew chettan got gripped. I just looked Mandu Chechi , and we smiled each other .
I could hear TV was crying loud .Mean while Aunty , girl’s mother , went out of the room and came back with coffee and cake. Someone switched off the TV.I could see , her brother , stepping down the stairs .within a couple of minutes later he came to the room and went back quickly . I wondered what the girl was doing , she might be sleeping . But I had seen an laptop opened over dining table, was she really sleeping?
The girls stepped in on 4 inch heels .I just wanted to tease her “Is that 4 inch included ,on 160 cm height written over matrimonial site ? “.She stood over one end of an long room, I felt as she was looking to sit down.. At last her mom asked her to sit. I was almost frozen and went to peek of my uncomfortable zone. I was like .. what next?
All were chatting, topics got exchanged from one to another. It came to on church now! I just asked like “is that church near the fire station?” As if to confirm, it . “Yes” someone confirmed. I was well aware of the place , That road was well known among my friends for bypassing police checking. I just wanted to talk something.
I looked girl again , I could see she had a bit of nail polish . Her hand was shot , but her biceps seems to be strong for a lady. She had drawn eye liner and I could say she had dressed up fast .On this point, Mandu Chechi asked , Do you want say her something ? before I could a think anything, my reflex in panic had signed No to chechi . It was only time I had eye contact with the girl. Had she got anything to say ? damn ,it was too late . I too wanted to talk. But the panic run made everything go wrong .
Within another couple of minutes we started back, on the way we had discussed every word they spoke ,and the common questions they missed ! As my part I said , girl seems to be humble and simple with a good personality and from a decent family , what else we should look for ? “She is older than you”, someone said . “Hmm” I nodded. Yes she was , but just few seconds.
I have watched Steve Jobs speeches live you dreams to some college students in youtube(stanford commencement speech 2005). I “liked” it for all the shares I had seen in fb . But it might be hard for Indians to live their dreams for their dreams are not theirs!!!